Not because it’s nice. Because you want something better for yourself.

You want to achieve? 

Say hello.

“Humans like to engage in the illusion of the rugged individual, but achievement is dependent on the intelligence and survival of the group, rather than the individuals in that group,” says Gerhard Adam.

Social bonds are fundamental to our survival and essential to our success.

FACT: We are stronger together than we are apart.

But society still glamorizes the tireless, companionless independent.

Will we ever end the glorification of going it alone?

It is not fun. It is not noble. Certainly, it is not more productive or even brave. (I should know. I’ve been doing it since I was nine.)

It’s just plain lonely. And as I’ve recently learned life-threatening.

Mid-winter, I rolled up to Doylestown, Pennsylvania (a quaint east coast, town clock sort of community) with two suitcases, a laptop and an espresso machine. Surrounded by acres of dormant grass and bare trees, I was cloistered from the outside world. Perfectly retreat-like, I worked, drank and ruminated.

The quiet slowly turned into depression. My daily meditations morphed into dark thoughts spiraling endlessly into the crevices of my mind.

I was at a crucial point in my life. Isolated. Alone. With no plans to change.

A lonely life is not a good life.

It is not a happy life.

And it is not a healthy life.

The thing about loneliness is that it can morph into depression before you know it. Damaging the only body you’ve got. Inhibiting your ability to fight infection. Playing tricks on your mind. Increasing stress. Even connecting you to higher chances of dementia. It inhibits the body’s ability to fight infection and ultimately leads to a host of preventable diseases.

Loneliness will wear you out and tear you up, before it kills you.

That alone should be enough evidence to put an end to the isolation, but in my case it wasn’t.

Even when I’m surrounded by people and friends, I often choose to be alone.

All those years building a throne of detachment and running to the security of solitude – left a mark on me. I can’t change the past, but I can connect today and change tomorrow.

People who spend time with people – are healthier, happier and more successful.

Say hello. We need each other.