No two mothers are alike, but every mom started out exactly the same: as a little girl, tiny hands, big innocent eyes, curious mind.

She isn’t prepared for what lies ahead. There are no hard and fast rules, no proven formulas or Mom 101 curriculum to raise the next generation. And certainly, there’s no certainty.

Could there be anything more frightening?

Until recently, most research has shown that people without kids live more satisfied lives than people with kids.

This can only mean one of two things. Either moms are the bravest women in the world, or Marisa de los Santos was right, “Parenthood chooses you.” (Or both.)

I am not one of the chosen. (Which makes me qualified to write this.)

Balancing single-legged on my sticky mat in the sweaty studio, opposite leg and arms outstretched in a T-like Warrior III formation, I repeat a mantra with each Darth Vader-like breath, “If I can do this, I can do anything.” (Which greatly improves the next ten seconds of suffering, but doesn’t seem the slightest bit applicable now that I’m thinking about motherhood.)

What I really need to know is… ?

Will I appreciate both the highs and lows as the best moments of my life

Can I embrace uncertainty

Will I drop expectations

Can I set boundaries and stand firm, because it’s the right thing to do

Will I be angry and stay classy at the same time

Will I keep my sense of humor

Can I remind myself, “Julie, you’re doing your best.”

Will I remember that my mother did her best

Will my children learn to be kind

Will they love unconditionally without judgment

And above all will I stay true to myself as an example of how to live a wholehearted, authentic life

We have a lot to celebrate on Sunday.

Say hello to the courageous women who follow their hearts and always do their best.

Happy Mother’s Day.

 

“Each time a child is born, a mother is also born,” Every Mother Counts